If you know how to say it fairly, firmly, calmly and consistently, No is a Love word.
For a long time, psychologists have known that the setting of limits satisfies a basic human need. The need for structure. All human beings have this need for order and behavioral boundaries. Children and adults alike seek the security provided by rules and discipline, but despite these facts of life, many men and women, cannot say no—at the right time or at the right place, or to the right people.
They are afraid that if they do set limits, they will become unpopular or unloved.
Learning how to say NO to your child, to other adults, and even to yourself is more important today than ever before. Why? Because we are living in a yes- society.
Instant gratification is everywhere, encouraged or accepted on television, in movies, magazines and books, as well as in everyday life.
The messages that are all too frequently practiced are:
If it feels good, do it
Make sure you get yours.
Get it now.
Unfortunately the voice of the yea-sayers is so loud and persuasive that it drowns out the voice of truth.
The truth that no is a love word.
Without it, our sons and daughters will grow up without self-control, without self-esteem, without social responsibility, and without success.
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